The Yomiuri ShimbunDear Troubleshooter:
I’m a male company employee in my late 40s. I was recently promoted and am now leader of a team. But I don’t think I’m the right person for the job, as I get so worn out every day.
I haven’t had a good overview of my duties yet and there are so many things new to me. I have no idea how to act as a leader, how to deal with my subordinates or how to carry out the tasks.
The workload is tremendous and it’s really stressing me out.
I would describe myself as a perfectionist. I pursue each task diligently before completing it. Naturally, I end up doing a lot of overtime, which is detrimental to my physical condition.
I haven’t been able to talk with my family or eat properly for days. There’s no energy left in me to do anything after I get home — except go to bed.
I’ve heard that a crisis offers opportunity. But I’m not at a stage where I can enjoy anything.
Should I stick it out, or should I ask to be relocated somewhere that would suit me better? Please give me your opinion.
T, Chiba Prefecture
Dear Mr. T:
You are having trouble trying to decide among two options regarding your new work situation — to persevere or move. But there is something you need to do before you make up your mind.
You are currently run-down, both physically and mentally. Take a couple of days off, sleep well and regain your energy. Then make your decision.
I agree that being relocated to a different post — if you are having trouble with the current one — is a solution. On the other hand, if you want to get by, simply putting up with the situation is not appropriate, either physically or mentally.
There are two things you should do.
First, check and sort out your duties — both in volume and content. Pass them on, if possible, to your subordinates. Make your own limits clear and seek advice from your boss when you find you have more than you can handle. You should do this to redefine your working environment.
Then look at your working style. Be flexible. Don’t be too precise in everything. Set your own rules in deciding priorities.
By working to new standards, you should find it easier to adapt to the working environment.
At any rate, take a good rest first and then determine what you really want to do.
Junko Umihara, psychiatrist